My fiancé and I are career minded people. We both have our masters and we really wanted to use our education so we have concentrated on our careers. We fell in love five years ago and got engaged. Having decided to share our lives we bought a house and saw no reason to rush out and have a ceremony. Time marches on and a few weeks ago we started to talk about the inevitable ticking clock; so we set a date for the wedding. Who knew there would be so much chaos? My mother (who is up on all things wedding) asked if we picked out save the date cards. Really?
I had heard of save the date cards for weddings, but do I need them? Apparently I do according to Mom. Back in the day, people would just send out invitations, wait for the responses and hope everyone was coming. This created a problem when some people were unable to attend, then you invited somebody you had left off the original list because you would have too many people. The secondary people (tacky, I know) would get their invitations very close to the wedding and possibly be insulted. I began to see Mom’s point. Save the date cards will have people marking their calendar and the chances are that more people will be available and if they are not they will let you know.
Needless to say, Mom has many other suggestions. What style of dress would look good on me, what the menu should be, don’t forget the menu cards, invitations, flowers and we should go looking for the right wedding cake before it’s too late. She informs me that she has been waiting for this my whole life. My fiancé just shrugs his shoulders, but I am beginning to think that we should have flown to Las Vegas and got married by Elvis. Oh well, my save the date cards are already in the mail. Can you imagine what she will have planned when we have a child?
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My boyfriend hasn’t even proposed yet, but we’ve discussed marriage and I know the engagement should be here soon, hopefully on our trip to St. Thomas. I’ll definitely be using Save the Date cards because I want everyone at my wedding!
If your wedding is that important to someone, they will change their plans, save the date cards can be usefull, but don’t guarantee all guest will still be able to attend. Good luck to you!
I never understood save the date cards myself. After reading your blog it now kind of makes sense. I missed out on some of my relatives at my wedding. Maybe they would have been there if I used save the date cards. Good tip!